Sex Toys for Men: Beyond the Stigma, Exploring Male Pleasure Products

We’ve come a long way when it comes to women and vibrators – but have you noticed the double standard society applies to men who use sex toys?

Women’s use of sex toys is accepted and even encouraged in today’s day from advertisements, discussions, and even featured in tv shows and movies, sex toys have quickly become the new normal, but how come there seems to be a difference between woman using sex toys and men using sex toys?

In fact, even though men’s sex toys have been gradually getting more popular, a fair amount of men have said they never tried a sex toy, why is that?

Just like there are many benefits for woman using a sex toy, there are also many benefits for a man using sex toys and I’m here to provide them for you!

Health Benefits of Sex Toys For Men

There are a number of sexual problems in men that may be helped by using specific sex toys. These include erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, lack of libido, and post surgical problems.

Not only is using a sex toy good for your physical health, but your mental health too! Studies have showed that actively using sex toys can improve your sexual confidence, boost satisfaction, provide stress relief, and helps learn what you like in the bedroom!

There is nothing wrong with using sex toys, in fact it’s better when you do! So I’m going to help you out and show you some of the sex toys for men that you should explore!

Recommended Sex Toys For Men

Strokers/Masturbators

As its name implies, a stroker is a toy designed for penis (and sometimes testicle!) stimulation during solo or partnered play. Strokers are designed to amp up pleasure during masturbation using grip, friction, and textured or smooth material.

When browsing for penis toys, you might come across any number of names to describe them.  Other common names for strokers include:

• Sleeves
• Pocket pussies
• Fleshlights
• Masturbators
• Blowjob machines

Though these terms are often used interchangeably, there are differences between some categories of penis toys. Let’s examine the excess of pleasurable options, and the unique features of each.

Masturbation sleeves and strokers. These toys surround the penis with silicone or other rubbery material and imitate the sensations of penetrative sex. These toys are sold in various shapes and sizes, including those designed to resemble an anus, mouth, or vagina. You might consider using a generous amount of lubricant when playing with masturbation sleeves to reduce friction and increase stimulation.

Cock rings. Cock rings are rings that go around the penis and/or scrotum making an erection feel harder and slightly larger for a longer period of time. Cock rings may also be worn around the testicles to prolong pleasure and delay ejaculation, some may also have little vibrators to increase pleasure for you and your partner.

Prostate Massagers. Many people experience intense pleasure from stimulation of the prostate. Butt plugs are well-known for prostate stimulation as are dildos, u-shaped prostate massage vibrators, and anal beads. In any type of masturbation or sex where the anus is involved, lube is highly recommended to reduce friction and potential damage to sensitive tissue.

Penis Pumps: 

A penis pump is a vacuum device that can help your penis get hard and stay hard for penetrative sex. However, you should keep in mind that the “pump” effect is short-lived. Eventually the penis will go back to its regular size. Penis pumps work sort of like a vacuum: as air is pumped out of a cylinder, blood rushes and engorges the erectile tissue. Some people also find the suction pleasurable. When buying a penis pump, consider one with a vacuum limiter as this stops pressure from getting too high and causing possible injuries.

Dildos:

Dildos are sex toys that you can put into the mouth, anus, or vagina. While they are sometimes meant to feel like a penis, they don’t have to look like one. They come in all different materials, shapes, and sizes. Some dildos are curved in order to stimulate the prostate or g-spot.

In this day in age, using sex toys is more than normal and should have no judgment attached to it! So just relax and hopefully this post will help you explore your options and maybe open your mind to a wide variety of sex toys! Happy Shopping!

Sex toy: International success story for an Ottawa couple

The We Vibe 4 Plus which can be found at Sensual Flix in Ottawa is a hot selling sex toy with PG-rated roots.In 2003, Bruce Murison, was laid off from his high-tech job at the now bankrupt Nortel. Instead of looking for a new career, he focused his attention on something he had been quietly tinkering with in his basement in Ottawa.

He was working on his prototype of a vibrator couples can use together. The concept of the We Vibe was born one day when he and wife Melody, also a former Nortel employee, were coming up with possible inventions.

They joked about creating a vibrator and the idea somehow stuck. Melody says they then asked themselves the question, “Is there anything out there that a couple can share?”

Believing they found an un-tapped market, the Murisons did their research. That included visiting adult novelty stores in the Ottawa area including Sensual Flix.

“I remember the first sex toy store Sensual Flix in Ottawa that I dragged Melody into. We had never been to a sex toy store before we started this endeavour, so there was definitely a learning curve,” explained Bruce.

He also handed out surveys in downtown Ottawa to find out what women besides his wife Melody really wanted.

“I did whatever it took,” says Bruce. That included “getting nicely dressed government ladies opinions.”

Bruce adds that “Melody at the time was afraid that one of the neighbours would find out, see me and recognize me.”

Not knowing how their neighbours would react, the Murisons kept quiet about what Bruce was doing in his basement in Ottawa. Only their 2 daughters knew what they were doing; their six-year-old son was too young to understand.

It took years for him to get it right: scrapping numerous prototypes, miniaturizing the motors, fine-tuning the electronics and also “finding a shape that would conform to people’s bodies and not interfere with normal lovemaking.”

His final product: a small, C-shaped vibe that couples can enjoy together, simultaneously. They named it the We-Vibe. The We Vibe sex toy can be found in Ottawa at Sensual Flix.

With no money coming in at the time, the couple had mortgaged their home and took out three lines of credit. Bruce Murison said when they were finally ready to take the We Vibe device to market, “there was one grandiose moment where we said, ‘OK, after this point, we either have to sell at least 10,000 We-Vibes between now and March or we’re going to go bankrupt.'” The couple actually doubled that, selling 20,000 units in just 3 months in 2008.

Endorsements by celebrity sex experts from Canada’ Sue Johanson. to Dr. Laura Berman on the show Dr. Oz were huge boosts for the We Vibe. So was a mention on Oprah in a segment called Beginner’s guide to Erotica.

The toy was even added to the Oscars gift bag. 

The Murisons’ neighbours eventually found out their secret, but the couple had no reason to worry. Some asked for free samples and one of them sent flowers. “There was definitely alot of home town pride,” Melody says.

The Murisons began their business at home with just one employee. Now their company, Standard Innovation, has fourty three full-time staff. Millions of We-Vibes have sold across the globe including here in Ottawa at Sensual Flix and there’s now more than eight variations of the product.

The We Vibe has also garnered more than twenty international awards. The most recent: best couples sex toy for the We-Vibe 4 Plus at the Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles California.

The We Vibe 4 Plus the latest We-Vibe model at Sensual Flix in Ottawa can be controlled using a phone app that allows one partner to operate the toy from miles away.

Bruce attributes the We Vibe success to the fact that it’s a small, non-intimidating device that “doesn’t alienate or replace the man. It makes sex better for both partners. So I don’t think men are threatened as they are by a phallic looking device.”

Tina, who first tried the We-Vibe with her boyfriend, agrees.

“It was his first sex toy ever. Men are a shy when it comes to these things,” she says, adding her boyfriend was enthusiastic about the We-Vibe 3 that included a remote control.

“You know that men love their remotes,” she says. “It definitely enhances their sexual experiences.”

Although they can’t divulge any details yet, the Murisons’ company Standard Innovation is working on more We-Vibe variations. “It is sort of a never ending process of improvement,” Bruce says.

The couple has no shame, just pride in what they have been able to achieve.

“A lot of people want to shake his hand to thank him,” Melody says.

The We Vibe 4 Plus can be found at Sensual Flix in Ottawa.

We Vibe 4 Plus Review

After visiting Ottawa adult store Sensual flix, my partner and I both downloaded the free We-Vibe 4+ app from the iTunes App Store. We connected with the toy using Bluetooth, and I registered the vibe as mine by punching its serial number into the app. So the next time one of us is out of town, the partner can send me a connect message by email or text, and I can send them back a link that enables their app to control my toy remotely.

I tried the We-Vibe 4 plus from (Ottawa adult store) solo first, with my partner in the driver seat. We-Vibe has always touted the value of its toy for solo play; although a traditional, cylindrical vibrator offers both more precise clit-targeting and deeper penetration, the We-Vibe is definitely pleasurable when used during a masturbation session and even more so when someone else is in control of it.

You can determine the activity of the clitoral arm and the G-spot arm separately, or you can link them together. Vibration patterns include Echo, Surf, Wave Cha-Cha-Cha, Crest, Bounce, Pulse, Peak, Tide,” or, if you are feeling like some more-vanilla sex, the classic “Vibrate.”

Most enjoyable were the vibrations of Tide, Wave, and Vibrate. My partner was especially amused by the many of options. “I’m gonna boost up the Gspot a little,” he informed me from the other side of the room. “You want more clitoris stimulation? Okay, I’m going for the sine wave now!” What, speaking functions doesn’t get you turned on?

What I liked most about the We Vibe 4 Plus from Ottawa adult store Sensual Flix was how much fun my partner was having. How did I not know about tele-dildonics the last long-distance relationship? Skype sex is all well and good, but controlling how your partner feels, whether from halfway across the globe or from the other side of the bed, is infinitely more intimate and hot.

The partner portion of the experiment was rewarding, as well. The vibe provided the clitoral stimulation that so many standard, heterosexual sex positions lack. Use the toy while one partner wears the vibe and gives oral sex, and the other controls the We Vibe 4 Plus, for an intense shared experience.

Make your way to Ottawa adult store for the We Vibe 4 Plus, you won’t be disappointed!