Breaking the Ice: How to Introduce Sex Toys Into Your Relationship
Ready to Spice Things Up?
Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been together for years, introducing sex toys can be a great way to explore new levels of intimacy. It’s natural to feel unsure about bringing up the topic, but with the right approach, it could lead to a deeper connection, excitement, and fun! At Sensual Flix Adult Boutique, Ottawa’s Sex Shop, we’re here to make that journey smooth, exciting, and tailored to your needs!
Why Consider Sex Toys?
Sex toys are more than just gadgets-they’re tools for exploration, communication and pleasure. They can:
Enhance foreplay & Intimacy
Help you discover new sensations
Break up the routine and add excitement to your love life
Improve communication by opening up discussions about what you both enjoy
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How To Start the Conversation
Introducing sex toys into a relationship is all about timing, tone and empathy. Here’s how to approach it:
1.Pick the right moment.
Choose a relaxed, private setting where you can both talk openly without distractions. Timing is everything-don’t bring it up during a heated argument or an already stressful moment.
2. Use open, Positive Language.
Instead of framing it as something your partner “needs” make it about what you can explore together. For example:
“I’ve been thinking about ways we can have even more fun in the bedroom-what do you think about trying a toy together?”
3. Gauge Their Feelings
Be ready for different reactions. Your partner may be curious, hesitant, or even a little nervous. Reassure the, that it’s about mutual enjoyment, not replacing anything already wonderful in your relationship.
Choosing the Right Toy Together
If your partner is open to the idea, make it a collaborative process!
1. Start Small.
Begin with something non-intimidating, like a vibrating ring, or a bullet vibrator, or massage oils. These are perfect for beginners and don’t feel overwhelming.
2. Shop Together
Visit an Ottawa Sex shop or browse online as a couple! This can turn toy shopping into a fun bonding experience. Look for sections dedicated to couples or beginners.
3. Ask for Suggestions
Unsure what to pick? Our Best sellers section is a great place to find trusted, highly rated products. Plus, our friendly support team is always available to help any questions discreetly.
Making the First Experience Comfortable
Trying a sex toy for the first time should feel exciting, not pressured.
Set the mood: Create a relaxing environment with soft lightening, music or candles.
Take it slow: Start with something simple, like using a massager on each other to get comfortable with the idea.
Use Lubricant: Pair the toy with a compatible lube to enhance comfort and sensations. Check out our lubricant collection for body-safe options online or in our sex shop!
Communicate: Check in with each other throughout to make sure it’s enjoyable and fun.
Addressing Common Concerns
If your partner seems hesitant, don’t worry-this is normal! Adress common concerns with patience and empathy:
1.Will a toy replace me?
Reassure your partner that toys are meant to enhance your intimacy, not replace it. They’re tools for shared pleasure.
2. Feeling Nervous?
It’s okay to feel unsure! Start slow with non-intimidating toys to build comfort.
3. Unsure about what to try?
Suggest browsing products together at our Sex Shop, Sensual Flix Adult Boutique, where you’ll find detailed descriptions and assistance ready to help out!
When to Take a Step Back
If your partner isn’t ready, respect their boundaries. Let them know the conversation is open and that you’re happy to revisit it in the future. Sometimes, people just need time to warm up to new ideas.
Best Beginner-Friendly Toys for Couples
Not sure where to start? Here are some great options!
Vibrating cock rings: A simple and fun addition to bring pleasure to both parties
Bullet Vibrators: Compact, versatile, and great for external stimulation.
Couple’s Vibrators: Designed to be used during intercourse for shared pleasure.
Massage Oils: A gentle way to explore touch and relaxation.
Remote-Controlled Toys: Perfect for long- distance fun or playful teasing.
Final Thoughts: A Journey, Not a Destination
Introducing sex toys into your relationship is about more than just adding something new into your bedroom-it’s about strengthening your connection, building trust, and exploring pleasure together. Start with an open mind, clear communication and a willingness to have fun.
Ready to Explore Together?
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Sex Toys for Men: Beyond the Stigma, Exploring Male Pleasure Products
We’ve come a long way when it comes to women and vibrators – but have you noticed the double standard society applies to men who use sex toys?
Women’s use of sex toys is accepted and even encouraged in today’s day from advertisements, discussions, and even featured in tv shows and movies, sex toys have quickly become the new normal, but how come there seems to be a difference between woman using sex toys and men using sex toys?
In fact, even though men’s sex toys have been gradually getting more popular, a fair amount of men have said they never tried a sex toy, why is that?
Just like there are many benefits for woman using a sex toy, there are also many benefits for a man using sex toys and I’m here to provide them for you!
Health Benefits of Sex Toys For Men
There are a number of sexual problems in men that may be helped by using specific sex toys. These include erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, lack of libido, and post surgical problems.
Not only is using a sex toy good for your physical health, but your mental health too! Studies have showed that actively using sex toys can improve your sexual confidence, boost satisfaction, provide stress relief, and helps learn what you like in the bedroom!
There is nothing wrong with using sex toys, in fact it’s better when you do! So I’m going to help you out and show you some of the sex toys for men that you should explore!
Recommended Sex Toys For Men
Strokers/Masturbators
As its name implies, a stroker is a toy designed for penis (and sometimes testicle!) stimulation during solo or partnered play. Strokers are designed to amp up pleasure during masturbation using grip, friction, and textured or smooth material.
When browsing for penis toys, you might come across any number of names to describe them. Other common names for strokers include:
Sleeves
Pocket pussies
Fleshlights
Masturbators
Blowjob machines
Though these terms are often used interchangeably, there are differences between some categories of penis toys. Let’s examine the excess of pleasurable options, and the unique features of each.
Masturbation sleeves and strokers. These toys surround the penis with silicone or other rubbery material and imitate the sensations of penetrative sex. These toys are sold in various shapes and sizes, including those designed to resemble an anus, mouth, or vagina. You might consider using a generous amount of lubricant when playing with masturbation sleeves to reduce friction and increase stimulation.
Cock rings. Cock rings are rings that go around the penis and/or scrotum making an erection feel harder and slightly larger for a longer period of time. Cock rings may also be worn around the testicles to prolong pleasure and delay ejaculation, some may also have little vibrators to increase pleasure for you and your partner.
Prostate Massagers. Many people experience intense pleasure from stimulation of the prostate. Butt plugs are well-known for prostate stimulation as are dildos, u-shaped prostate massage vibrators, and anal beads. In any type of masturbation or sex where the anus is involved, lube is highly recommended to reduce friction and potential damage to sensitive tissue.
Penis Pumps:
A penis pump is a vacuum device that can help your penis get hard and stay hard for penetrative sex. However, you should keep in mind that the “pump” effect is short-lived. Eventually the penis will go back to its regular size. Penis pumps work sort of like a vacuum: as air is pumped out of a cylinder, blood rushes and engorges the erectile tissue. Some people also find the suction pleasurable. When buying a penis pump, consider one with a vacuum limiter as this stops pressure from getting too high and causing possible injuries.
Dildos:
Dildos are sex toys that you can put into the mouth, anus, or vagina. While they are sometimes meant to feel like a penis, they don’t have to look like one. They come in all different materials, shapes, and sizes. Some dildos are curved in order to stimulate the prostate or g-spot.
In this day in age, using sex toys is more than normal and should have no judgment attached to it! So just relax and hopefully this post will help you explore your options and maybe open your mind to a wide variety of sex toys! Happy Shopping!
Sex toy: International success story for an Ottawa couple
The We Vibe 4 Plus which can be found at Sensual Flix in Ottawa is a hot selling sex toy with PG-rated roots.In 2003, BruceMurison, was laid off from his high-tech job at the now bankrupt Nortel. Instead of looking for a new career, he focused his attention on something he had been quietly tinkering with in his basement in Ottawa.
He was working on his prototype of a vibrator couples can use together. The concept of the We Vibe was born one day when he and wife Melody, also a former Nortelemployee, were coming up with possible inventions.
They joked about creating a vibrator and the idea somehow stuck. Melody says they then asked themselves the question, “Is there anything out there that a couple can share?”
Believing they found an un-tapped market, theMurisonsdid their research. That included visiting adult novelty stores in the Ottawa area including Sensual Flix.
“I remember the first sex toy store Sensual Flix in Ottawa that I dragged Melody into. We had never been to a sex toy store before we started thisendeavour,so there was definitely a learning curve,” explained Bruce.
He also handed out surveys in downtown Ottawa to find out what women besides his wife Melody really wanted.
“I did whatever it took,” says Bruce. That included “getting nicely dressed government ladies opinions.”
Bruce adds that “Melody at the time was afraid that one of the neighbours would find out, see me and recognize me.”
Not knowing how their neighbours would react, the Murisons kept quiet about what Bruce was doing in his basement in Ottawa. Only their 2 daughters knew what they were doing; their six-year-old son was too young to understand.
It took years for him to get it right: scrapping numerous prototypes, miniaturizing the motors, fine-tuning the electronics and also “finding a shape that would conform to people’s bodies and not interfere with normal lovemaking.”
His final product: a small, C-shaped vibe that couples can enjoy together, simultaneously. They named it the We-Vibe. The We Vibe sex toy can be found in Ottawa at Sensual Flix.
With no money coming in at the time, the couple had mortgaged their home and took out three lines of credit. Bruce Murison said when they were finally ready to take the We Vibe device to market, “there was one grandiose moment where we said, ‘OK, after this point, we either have to sell at least 10,000 We-Vibes between now and March or we’re going to go bankrupt.'” The couple actually doubled that, selling 20,000 units in just 3 months in 2008.
Endorsements by celebrity sex experts from Canada’ Sue Johanson. to Dr. Laura Berman on the show Dr. Oz were huge boosts for the We Vibe. So was a mention on Oprah in a segment called Beginner’s guide to Erotica.
The toy was even added to the Oscars gift bag.
TheMurisons’neighbours eventually found out their secret, but the couple had no reason to worry. Some asked for free samples and one of them sent flowers. “There was definitely alot of home town pride,” Melody says.
The Murisons began their business at home with just one employee. Now their company, Standard Innovation, has fourty three full-time staff. Millions of We-Vibes have sold across the globe including here in Ottawa at Sensual Flix and there’s now more than eight variations of the product.
The We Vibe has also garnered more than twenty international awards. The most recent: best couples sex toy for the We-Vibe 4 Plus at the Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles California.
The We Vibe 4 Plus the latest We-Vibe model at Sensual Flix in Ottawa can be controlled using a phone app that allows one partner to operate the toy from miles away.
Bruce attributes the We Vibe success to the fact that it’s a small, non-intimidating device that “doesn’t alienate or replace the man. It makes sex better for both partners. So I don’t think men are threatened as they are by a phallic looking device.”
Tina, who first tried the We-Vibe with her boyfriend, agrees.
“It was his first sex toy ever. Men are a shy when it comes to these things,” she says, adding her boyfriend was enthusiastic about the We-Vibe 3 that included a remote control.
“You know that men love their remotes,” she says. “It definitely enhances their sexual experiences.”
Although they can’t divulge any details yet, the Murisons’ company Standard Innovation is working on more We-Vibe variations. “It is sort of a never ending process of improvement,” Bruce says.
The couple has no shame, just pride in what they have been able to achieve.
“A lot of people want to shake his hand to thank him,” Melody says.
The We Vibe 4 Plus can be found at Sensual Flix in Ottawa.
